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It Takes A Village To Have A Good Relationship

Sometimes, I joke with my boyfriend and say, “I don’t have friends anymore.”

It’s not exactly true.  But as we’ve gotten more serious, my focus has definitely shifted from friends, to him and our relationship. 

We spend most of our free time together.  And, we’re also starting to have more of a couple’s social life, where we’re spending time with others, together. 

In Judith Wallerstein’s book, The Good Marriage*, she found that people in good marriages weren’t just close to each other, they were also connected to their communities. 

They had outside interests and friends, for themselves and as a couple.  In other words they didn’t live in isolation.   

It’s important to make your relationship a priority.  But, since no one person can ever meet all your needs (my boyfriend wants me to have more friends :), it’s also important to have other people you can turn to. 

And not just for support.  It’s good to have other people to have fun with, on your own and as a couple. 

So, how do you and your partner stay connected to the rest of the world, on your own, or as a couple?  Or do you? 

p.s. *To read more about this, check out Judith Wallerstein’s book, The Good Marriage.  

Vonda (“Vondie”) Lozano, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio. Vondie offers hypnosis, counseling, and workshops in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard.

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  • Get Your Ex Back

    Hi Friends,
    Well I never really realized we need to be bit social. She used to say all this to me but I never cared to think on this topic. Well, thank you for making it clear.

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