As we approach the holidays and get ready for a new year, it’s normal to think about where we are in our lives. We look back at the past year and we think about the year ahead.
But, sometimes, when we look back, it’s easy to compare ourselves to other people. We start thinking about our relationships and our lives compared to how we think theirs are.
Or sometimes, we don’t even compare ourselves to real people. We compare ourselves to hallmark commercials or people we see on t.v. and we think their lives look better than ours.
And we end up feeling bad about ourselves.
But, I’ve love the saying that –“the only appropriate comparison is between where we are now and where we’ve come from.”
We stop comparing our lives to what we think other people’s lives are like. And instead, we look at ourselves now, compared to where we were before.
We all work so hard and expect so much of ourselves, it’s easy to focus on what we’d like to change in ourselves and our lives. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s good to have goals and to work toward them.
But, sometimes, it’s good to remember how hard you try and to celebrate the little victories. Like, maybe this year, you took some risks in your relationship:
- Maybe you tried speaking up more
- Or maybe you listened more
- Or maybe you set some boundaries
- Or maybe you risked getting closer
Whatever you did differently to try to have a better relationship, that’s a risk. It’s also a step toward having the kind of relationship and life you really want.
So, as you get ready for the holidays and think about the year ahead, I hope you can give yourself some credit for who you are and where you are today. Because you deserve it.