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What Men/Women Really Want! Saturday, Feb. 14 & Saturday, March 12

We all want love. But, sometimes men and women approach it differently. So, we’re gonna talk about “What Men and Women Really Want.”

Plus we’ll have a special “Ask It — Basket” where you can put in questions and get answers from the opposite sex!

These meetups will be lots of fun. :)

Here are some of the things we’ll be talking about:

Dating

• How does a woman let a man know she’s interested?

• Who asks for the first date?

• Who pays for the first date?

• Should a man open doors, etc.?

Attachment

• Who likes to get close by talking?

• Who has 20,000 words per day?*

• Who has 7,000 words per day?*

• Who likes to get close by doing things together?***

• Who is more visual and more likely to experience “love at first sight”?*

• Who needs more daily closeness and touch to stay attached?*

Emotions

• Who remembers birthdays and anniversaries more often?*

• Who has nine emotional memory centers?*

• Who has two emotional memory centers?*

• Who is better at reading their partner’s emotions?*

• Who is more likely to avoid emotions — theirs and yours?*

• Who registers danger more? (ie. is very uncomfortable with their back to the door in a restaurant)*

• Whose first response is fear or worry?*

• Whose first response is anger?*

• Who likes to give advice and problem solve?

• Who likes support and doesn’t want advice?

Conflict

• Who handles conflict better?**

• What does a man need when he says, “I can’t talk about this anymore’?**

• What does a woman need when he says “I can’t talk about this anymore”?**

• Who is more likely to say something “below the belt?”**

• Who is “better” at fighting verbally?*

• What does a man say or do when he wants to make up?****

• Why does a woman need to talk and work things out before she can make up?

• Who is more invested in the relationship and can feel more stressed by relationship conflict?*

• Who is more vulnerable after a significant break-up?

Remember, we all want love. The key is learning to respect and value each other’s differences. Then you can find compromises that work for both of you.

Plus, I’ll include a free group guided imagery/hypnosis to help you attract the kind of love you really want!

What Men/Women Really Want! Part I, Saturday, Feb. 14
What Men/Women Really Want! Part II, Saturday, March 12
3:00 p.m.
E.P. Foster Library
651 E. Main St., Ventura, CA
Cost: FREE

References:

*Brizendine, L. (2006). The Female Brain. New York: Doubleday.

**Gottman, J. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. New York: Simon & Schuster

***Markman, Stanley, & Blumberg. (1992). Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive steps for preventing divorce and preserving a lasting love. Wiley: San Francisco

****McWilliams, Paul. (2003). San Gabriel Valley Association of Marriage & Family Therapists Meeting, Why Men Won’t Talk to Women and What to Do About It. Pasadena, CA.

Vonda (“Vondie”) Lozano, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal and on KABC Talk Radio. Vondie offers hypnosis, counseling, and workshops in Ventura. Nearby cities include Camarillo, Ojai and Oxnard.

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